This mentality doesn't allow true connection and intimacy to occur in a relationship. I have learnt over the years that I have fooled myself with the belief that what I am hiding from my partner is good for both of us. And the years I have lived have taught me my mistake.
Hiding and not sharing uncomfortable things creates a sort of mental distance between partners. And with each thing we hide this distance gets bigger. With each white lie this distance gets filled with a mental brick and with each lie this space and the bricks within them seem to be covered in some form of mental concrete. And with time we are staring at a mental wall between us.
Don't be a fool. We must learn to build gardens with our partners and not a wall between us.
Romantic partnerships are based on trust and transparency. It is important to practice being more vulnerable with our partners.
We must share those aspects of our self that we generally hide in the name of bringing us closer to one another. Even those which make us feel scared.
Over the course of my life I have found this to be true not just between lovers, but between people in any partnership. Between the closest of friends, between a parent and a child and even between partners in business.
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